There’s a reason why “young and reckless” is a phrase. My ex-boyfriend was the embodiment of “young and reckless”. Going to college I’ve seen so many students right before my eyes partake in excessive drinking, nicotine addictions, etc. Such was the problem with my ex-boyfriend as well. I was with him for 2.5 years, and it wasn’t until he started college that I noticed him drinking irresponsibly. Knowing my experience with substances, he completely invalidated and was inconsiderate of my history with substance abuse. He would get blackout drunk and his mom would have to text me to ask what was wrong. There were many of these occurrences. However, the biggest, most irresponsible situation was when he attended his first rave. Here’s the thing about raves: the audience is usually smooshed together with skin-to-skin contact making it difficult for people to breathe. There are usually intense strobe lights that could be too strong for anyone to handle. I, for example, am sensitive to flashing lights due to my epileptic seizures… you can see how this could be a major health concern, especially when it’s your first rave and you don’t know what to expect. Lack of personal space coupled with intense strobe lights is not a good mix. On top of that, my ex did not fully know the people in the group he was attending this rave with.